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Unread 08-16-2014, 06:20 PM   #1
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Question Does" In sickness and in health" Have conditions?

My wife has made my life so difficult for the past year. Just found out she's been abusing painkillers, drained our bank account and hocked her wedding ring for drugs.

7 years of marriage : I have put up with at least 3 incidents of cheating, I short lived Meth problem she admitted to, found remnants of her using cocaine... And now this... Which has left me and her boys with little funds to keep the household running. I love these kids like my own but my best answer is to get her the help she needs then divorce her. I'll always take care of "my" boys regardless of what happens.

She has agreed to a 30 day program and is set to start Monday. The detox stage was rough but she made it past the worst of it.
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Unread 08-16-2014, 08:23 PM   #2
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Hi Caroy72, you certainly have been through a lot in the past 7 years. Hopefully she'll embrace the 30-day program and want to have an addiction-free lifestyle. Unfortunately, no one can force her to. It's something she needs to want to do. If she went to rehab voluntarily, that's a good sign.

You have to do what is best for you. You have to take care of yourself and your boys. Do what is right for you.

This article might be of interest. It's called "Addiction, Lies and Relationships".

Let us know how you're doing. We're here to listen and support you.

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Unread 08-17-2014, 12:46 PM   #3
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I've come to a sad realization. I am her BIGGEST enabler. I am the primary income of the household, her income was pretty much supplementary, groceries, entertainment, ect...

For 4 years of our marriage she didn't have to work at all. I'm thinking that without me as a financial cushion, she may have a better chance of staying clean. After all, I know she loves her boys and is always worried about being a good mother.

Do you think this is backward thinking? Am I simply trying to justify my actions with my decision to leave?
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