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Unread 05-15-2015, 02:11 PM   #151
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Good evening Catfish + Dog. Bright blessings to you.

I just wanted to pop by and say that is such lovely advice and strength you are sharing. It is so very hard when we wish for others, and moreover know obstacles we can not move from their way.

I also thank Millie for sharing her post. It meant a great deal.

Be peaceful, be healthy and be strong. Loveness to you Catfish + Dog
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Unread 05-16-2015, 05:03 AM   #152
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Thank you, dear Tryn. I am terribly upset today as my daughter is being subtly bullied at school. The nasty girls in her class have a particularly nasty nickname for her behind her back, and joke that they've 'caught the infection' if they happen to brush past her.

The sad thing is that it's a couple of the mothers who have had it in for my family for some years, and they've poisoned their nasty children against my own children. The reason for this is that they see my children as 'scruffy'. (My daughter has insane hair and my son doesn't want his cut! My daughter doesn't buy into the pink thing, likes rock music instead of pop, and my son prefers 100% wool and tweed to high fashion.)

So I'm not happy.
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Unread 05-16-2015, 05:55 AM   #153
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Catfish im very sorry to hear your daughter is being bullied. It is the worst thing, and i wish i could speak to the girls and tell them how things will change in a few years, and that they will be ashamed of their actions.

Id also like to give their mothers a slap. Immature and utterly pathetic.

But one good thing is that you seem to have two fantastic kids! I would of definitely been their friends if i was at school with them

The thing is, as your kids grow older, THEY will be the cool ones, they will be the artists, the musician, the scientist, the teacher and the writer. Those girls?? Probably in some job they hate.

Id like to share my favourite quote here, and maybe you can pass it on to your daughter. I take solace in this every day, to accept my 'crazy' -

"Here's to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the round pegs in the square holes... the ones who see things differently - they're not fond of rules... You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them, but the only thing you can't do is ignore them because they change things... they push the human race forward, and while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius, because the ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do."
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Unread 05-16-2015, 08:49 AM   #154
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Gosh, Alexis, that is a wonderful quote! Thank you so much. I will show it to her. I know I'm pretty biased, but I do have really quite nice kids. Kind, considerate, smart, good moral compass and sense of fairness. I like them very much.

I do hate those mums though. They are not very nice at all and obviously have nothing better to do with their time. Xxxx
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Unread 05-16-2015, 10:08 AM   #155
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Gosh, Alexis, that is a wonderful quote! Thank you so much. I will show it to her. I know I'm pretty biased, but I do have really quite nice kids. Kind, considerate, smart, good moral compass and sense of fairness. I like them very much.

I do hate those mums though. They are not very nice at all and obviously have nothing better to do with their time. Xxxx
im glad you like it, i hope it helps xx
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Unread 05-16-2015, 10:34 AM   #156
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Catfish, I hope you can get to the bottom of the bulling.
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Unread 05-17-2015, 12:30 PM   #157
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Catfish - Do not tolerate any sort of bullying, your kids don't deserve that, meet the principal and clear it. Nip the bud before it grows into a tree...When you are right take head on..good luck.
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Unread 05-17-2015, 01:48 PM   #158
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Oh there are mean people everywhere, and I'm very sorry this happened to you and your family, they pick on the meek and wonderful. So don't mind them, keep going....
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Unread 05-18-2015, 06:45 AM   #159
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Good morning Catfish + Dog. Bright blessings to you.

Yuk, yuk, yuk, yuk. I hate bullies and what bullying does.

Just because others do not like "the cut of your jib" means diddly-squat, or at least it should. Those that bully are insecure and need to pick on others to find their own strength and power.

It sounds to me your kids enjoy their identity's, and quite rightly so. 1 of my daughters has a beautiful little girl, (her name is Aaliyah), and she adores her granddad. She is 9 now and was being bullied so at school. Mum so very upset, and didn't know what to do. I sat with the little'un and asked her to tell me how she was being bullied. As she did i wrote down her words, put them together and sent said letter, "on her behalf" to the head mistress, (who was next to useless) until she found out i had FWD to the school Governors.

Of course then there is "payback". Together with the school we moved forward in a way that did not include the names of those who felt they were being bullied, and that the school ended up looking at the whole school and their policys around bullying and where they were quite obviously coming up short.

Whatever your chosen pathway with this, make sure your little'uns continue to live their lives as they feel enables them to flourish as themselves. They have a smashing mum in their corner.

Be peaceful, be healthy and be strong. Loveness to you Catfish + Dog
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Unread 05-18-2015, 06:49 PM   #160
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I said a little hello to you today while in London

Hope you and the kids are all good xx

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Unread 05-21-2015, 01:44 PM   #161
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Thank you so much everyone. The bullying was resolved and fully apologised for, and my daughter has come out of it fine.

I just wanted to fly by and let everyone know I'm okay. I'm having a very busy time with the charity and have been rushed off my feet, but will be back more regularly as soon as I can! Xxx
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Unread 05-21-2015, 01:44 PM   #162
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Hi Catfish.

I'm so very sorry to hear that your kid is being bullied. I was bullied, and it's just such a miserable experience. Please give her a hug for me.
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Unread 05-21-2015, 02:55 PM   #163
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That is good Catfish, you and her deserve the best! It is hard to speak up for myself, so I admire you very much.
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Unread 05-21-2015, 04:24 PM   #164
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Catfish, Good news on the bulling. Glad you did not drink over it. Drinking is not an option for us alcoholics.
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Unread 05-23-2015, 07:00 AM   #165
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How are you Catfish? xx
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Unread 05-23-2015, 10:53 AM   #166
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Catfish...hope things going well...How are you...?
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Unread 05-25-2015, 10:20 AM   #167
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Catfish,

Glad to hear the bullying issue is resolved.

As far as sobriety, first things first. Remember your triggers. It is easy to fall back into our old ways. When life is good, when we are feeling good, we will tell ourselves one drink, just one will be ok. Well we would be wrong.

Think through that first drink Catfish. Think sobriety. We move towards and become that which we think about.

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Unread 05-25-2015, 10:22 AM   #168
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Catfish, How are you doing?
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Unread 05-25-2015, 11:53 AM   #169
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Thinking about you, Catfish! Hope all is well. Jenm
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Unread 05-25-2015, 12:20 PM   #170
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Good evening Catish + Dog. Bright blessings to you.

How is your lot getting along?

Dont forget 1 step at a time. It is why we have 2 feet.

Dear Saint, hits the nail on the head......"just one eh?".....

Nope.

Be peaceful, be healthy and be strong. Loveness to you Catfish + Dog
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Unread 05-25-2015, 12:21 PM   #171
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(I do beg your pardon)....Catfish

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Unread 05-26-2015, 01:44 PM   #172
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Yes, Catfish, how are you doing?
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Unread 05-26-2015, 02:21 PM   #173
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Worrying about you Catfish... where are you??

Hoping you have just gone vigilante against those evil parents !

Please check in and let us know how you are x
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Unread 05-26-2015, 02:42 PM   #174
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Catfish, It is not a good sign when you are not posting.
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Unread 05-27-2015, 10:59 AM   #175
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Hi Catfish...hope things are going well...take a moment to post, whatever it is ...remember no judging here...wanted to pass this what JenM wrote..

"...nothing is worth drinking over, ever"
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Unread 05-27-2015, 01:20 PM   #176
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Catfish, You can do this.
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Unread 05-31-2015, 04:52 AM   #177
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Good morning Catfish + Dog. Bright blessings to you both.

I do not want you to think i am asuming anything, although i just want to share with you that if you are in a difficult place, we are all here for you.

The FBI have badges which means they get free coffee at starbucks. The CIA have badges which means they can go into any country, at any time....free.

Here at Addiction survivors we have badges which mean we need never struggle alone again.

Be peaceful, be healthy and be strong. Loveness to you Catfish + Dog
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Unread 05-31-2015, 12:51 PM   #178
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Good one Tryn! Catfish you are needed here no matter what happened. Don't stay away for a year & 3 days this time.

If you are drinking let us know how it is going. By sharing that I know I do not want to drink today.

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Unread 08-12-2015, 10:33 AM   #179
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Miss you Catfish xx
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