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Unread 03-27-2012, 12:20 PM   #1
Gigi1969
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Default How addicted is my 16 y/o daughter?

Hello everyone. Thanks for the opportunity to post on this site. What a wonderful resource!

I am just going to jump right in. I am a 43 y/o professional, involved in my church, and everything most people would consider "normal" lol. When my daughter was 14, she was involved in a home burglary. The others involved were 15, 28 and 35. My daughter knew the 15 year old (the 15 year old was kin to the 28 and 35 y/o). Because my daughter was on the premisis at the time of the burglary, she was found guilty, although she had no stolen property in her possession. (That's fine, she shouldn't have been there). The adults were found to be meth addicts stealing to support their habit.

My daughter confessed the burglary to me, which lead to ME contacting the police department, which lead to the arrests. My daughter also confessed to me that she had been smoking meth with the other three individuals involved in the burglary.

SIDE NOTE: Her father became addicted to meth at 35 (after we had been divorced for about a year). She has a very supportive step-father who has stood by her through all of this. Upon charges being filed, I hired an attorney, put her in counseling, made her do community service (it wasn't required at the time by the court), restricted EVERYTHING she did, and $20,000 dollars later, she was given a tresspassing charge (a misdemeaner) while the other three received felonies for burglary of a habitation. She did well for the next two years. We have also continued to randomly drug test her.

Now, here we are at 16. Six months ago she ran away....gone for two days....when she called home and we picked her up, again she confessed to smoking meth. At that point we put her in a Christian School. Isolated her basically from everything and everyone. She is very smart. Has a beautiful soul. Does well in school. She wrote an essay about clean fuel and won an all expense paid trip to Washington DC (which she attends in June). And now......three weeks ago, she tested positive for meth AGAIN! We have tested her every other day since and they have all been negative.

I really don't know what to do. I am afraid one day she is going to drop right off the face of the earth and become like the METH PICTURES I have seen which breaks my heart. What should I do? How can I gauge how far her addiction has advanced?

Thanks for listening

PS: Her father is functional...job, family, etc., Never been arrested. I suspect he still struggles. He IS involved in her life...and is ADAMENT that she not follow in his shoes.

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Unread 03-27-2012, 03:03 PM   #2
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Hi Gigi1969, welcome. I'm so sorry to hear your daughter's involvement with those people and meth. Does she live at the Christian School? Does she know the consequences of long-term meth usage? Has she seen the faces of meth and realize that it doesn't take long to look like that? Maybe you should show her.
http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/pages/frontl...ody/faces.html

Also show her this from:
http://www.drugabuse.gov/publication...ethamphetamine

What Other Adverse Effects Does Methamphetamine Have on Health?

Taking even small amounts of methamphetamine can result in many of the same physical effects as those of other stimulants, such as cocaine or amphetamines, including increased wakefulness, increased physical activity, decreased appetite, increased respiration, rapid heart rate, irregular heartbeat, increased blood pressure, and hyperthermia.

Long-term methamphetamine abuse has many negative health consequences, including extreme weight loss, severe dental problems (“meth mouth”), anxiety, confusion, insomnia, mood disturbances, and violent behavior. Chronic methamphetamine abusers can also display a number of psychotic features, including paranoia, visual and auditory hallucinations, and delusions (for example, the sensation of insects crawling under the skin).

Transmission of HIV and hepatitis B and C can be consequences of methamphetamine abuse. The intoxicating effects of methamphetamine, regardless of how it is taken, can also alter judgment and inhibition and can lead people to engage in unsafe behaviors, including risky sexual behavior. Among abusers who inject the drug, HIV/AIDS and other infectious diseases can be spread through contaminated needles, syringes, and other injection equipment that is used by more than one person. Methamphetamine abuse may also worsen the progression of HIV/AIDS and its consequences. Studies of methamphetamine abusers who are HIV-positive indicate that HIV causes greater neuronal injury and cognitive impairment for individuals in this group compared with HIV-positive people who do not use the drug.5,6


It's not really a scare tactic, but educating her on the effects both short and long-term.

Is she currently in therapy? Has her father spoken directly to her about the dangers of where she could head if she continues on the destructive path of meth use?

I think you should continue to drug test her. That way she has accountability for something. Also put consequences for a failed drug test. One of which could be she would forfeit her trip to DC in June.

Sorry for all the questions.

Nancy
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Unread 03-27-2012, 06:09 PM   #3
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Dear GiGi,

Nancy already gave you solid feedback and great links. I agree you are being proactive, however addiction is an equal opportunity disease, it doesn't care how good a person you, your family are... it is out there. If she is not in therapy imo- with an addictionologist who can work her , refer her to appropriate supports as well as help you.

I know she is good and smart person, most of us are : ) it sounds like she got scared straight there for a while but now time has passed, fear of consequences might have faded and she is once again testing her limits.
It takes money to buy any substances, so imo watch her spending- as Nancy posted make her accountable and in this case -- for every penny. I really think it would be wise for her to see an addictionologist, I fear she may switch from one substance to another.

Always look for behavioral changes ( I know difficult w/ a teenage daughter ) high highs, low lows, more than the average teenage angst. Changes in grades , interests etc..
How did her father stop meth? Is he in any type of program?

Also, read about addiction, learn as much as you can , the more you know the better equipped you are to face this. Also read the other forums, you can gain a lot of insight. The substance may differ but everything else that the addict and their family goes through is similar.

Keep us posted and take care,
Carly


Link for friends and family educational info :

http://www.alcoholanswers.org/friends-family/

Another Friends and Family forum
http://www.addictionsurvivors.org/vb...splay.php?f=54
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Unread 03-27-2012, 06:28 PM   #4
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Thank you both for your quick replys. She is, in fact, in counseling for drug addiction through the school. Her stepmother is the daughter of the owners of the school, so she has lots of support. Her stepmother is also the one who directed her father to sources that could help him. I realize addiction can happen to anyone, regardless of socio-economical background, so I apologize if I offended anyone in my original post.
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Unread 03-28-2012, 11:49 AM   #5
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Hi Gigi1969, first off, no offense taken at all.

That's good that she's in counseling and has a lot of support there. Do you know if she's benefitting from the counseling? If she isn't and seems to just be going through the motions of just showing up and being an active participant, it might be time to find a new one. The only treatment available for meth addiction is therapy right now - there are no medications that are approved to help. If she's not learning how to deal with cravings and/or triggers, that would be a huge red flag. It's good that she confessed to smoking meth, did she say why she did?

I hope it was a foolish mistake on her part and she's learned from it.

Please keep us posted.

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Unread 03-28-2012, 02:28 PM   #6
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Hi Gigi,

No offense taken at all, I was just trying to explain that addiction can happen to anyone. You sound educated about the disease and it is good that she is in counseling. I agree with Nancy, it takes time and work to find a counselor and/or support system that works. I was encouraging working with an addictions specialist as they can gauge what is working for her and make appropriate referrals if needed.

It sounds like you are on the right track, keep us posted and hope that your daughter will continue to work on her issues so she can have a successful and happy future.

Take care,
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Unread 04-10-2012, 06:15 AM   #7
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Hi Gigi1969, just checking to see how things are going for you and for your daughter. Let us know when you can.

Nancy
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