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Unread 04-21-2017, 12:47 PM   #9
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I don't know how someone could love someone, truly love someone, yet be emotionally abusive. Any type of abuse is not love. Could his 'love' be more of a control thing for him towards you. You bought a house, yet he didn't move in, but he helps you with the bills so you're kind of stuck with him. He does what he wants, no thought of how it will effect you. Those things don't sound like love, but control.

If you don't feel talking with him will get you anywhere, could you write him a letter. That way he can read it when you're not there. Do you think that would help, or would it be something he would hold over you - more control.

All this is my opinion, from the outside looking in based on what you've said.

I just want you to have control of what YOU want to be happy and healthy.
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