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Unread 04-08-2017, 04:56 PM   #2
NancyB
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Hi GFofanAddict, you say he detoxed, are you saying he stopped taking Suboxone?

Do you know how much Suboxone he was taking before he had his relapse - more out of curiosity. And also because you asked for blunt comments. Many relapses happen in the mind well before it happens physically. It wouldn't be surprising if he had stopped the bupe before he made the call to get the heroin because he knows that it would have been blocked.

In any event. It's ok to not trust him. He violated YOUR trust by doing that conveniently when you were out of town. Talk with him about it. Make some boundaries and rules. And be sure you have consequences you are willing to go through with. You can tell him that you would like to be able to drug test him at any time. (You can get drug test kits at pharmacies, Walmart, online, etc.) If he is still taking Suboxone, that will not show up as an opiate or as heroin. There's a different test for buprenorphine.

How often are you going to the psychologist - do you both sit in the same session? If so, it would probably be a good idea for him to see one on his own. He may not want to talk about anything craving related in front of you.

There is hope because he's getting help. Hopefully he is doing it for himself and himself only. He can't do it for you, his family, etc.

Hopefully it was a one-time slip up and he learned that's not the life he wants to live.

If you need in person support, think about going to Alanon. There you'll find people who have been in your shoes or are going through what you are. Here's a link: http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/

I wish you the best. I hope I didn't sound too harsh. Please let us know how you both are doing.

Nancy
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